It’s the New Year and you made it through the holidays. The gifts are all put away, the decorations are taken down and the kids are back to school. Now comes the difficult steps that you were contemplating before the holidays. Is it time to move forward in your relationship or do you want to proceed with a divorce? It may seem like you are at a cross-roads and not quite sure of the direction you need to go.
You are weighing in on all the effects of the decision you are about to make. Every situation is different, but I do know that you could be in a very vulnerable and emotional state right now.
Trying to make decisions without knowing the facts can have lasting consequences for the future. I would rather have someone come to me and just ask questions and get facts instead of “hear-say” and myths than to make decisions on inaccurate information. There is not a magic genie that will tell you the future but making decisions based on facts are much more accurate than ones based on myth.
As a Certified Divorce Financial Advisor™, I have put together a couple of mistakes that I frequently see and maybe their mistakes can keep you from making the same ones.
- Stop asking your friends, relatives or co-workers who have gone through a divorce what to do. Every situation is different and you begin to compare your settlement options to theirs.
- Don’t talk to family members about what you should do logistically. They love you and are well meaning, but let them give you emotional support not divorce specific advice unless they are qualified to give advice.
- Seek out a professional. If you just want to know what is true and what options you have, call a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ to help you with the financial decisions and/or an attorney to give you the legal facts.
- Interview various attorneys and Financial Certified Divorce Analyst’s™. If you can’t trust the professional, you are working with you will be doubting every piece of advice they give you and it will only make the process more expensive.
- Last but not least, don’t try to let your spouse talk you into going through the divorce process without any professional to guide you. You could inadvertently agree to something that could be harmful in the long run even if it isn’t intentional.
The road isn’t always clear. Find out the FACTS, before you take a life-changing step. Call, Dekker Divorce Financial Consulting today to schedule your one-half hour free consultation. 480-897-1067.