February is the month of chocolates, sweethearts, flowers and romance, right? Not quite when you are going through a divorce. It can be painful to say the least. Bitterness, anger, jealousy, can all leap to the forefront of your mind. You try to put on a smiling face but the reality is there and sometimes you just need to take a deep breath.
It’s not only Valentine’s Day, but all the “first” holidays you spend by yourself. Christmas, New Year’s Eve, 4th of July and Birthdays, just to name a few. How do you cope? Here are just a few pointers that may help through.
- Having a pity party all by yourself is not an option. Avoiding friends and family only pushes them away and they want to help. Real friends know you are hurting and will want to spend time with you even if it means wiping away tears. Reach out to them, you may be surprised and actually have a good time.
- Avoid over indulging on the chocolate and alcohol. This is only a superficial band aide and the next morning you can wake up with a very bad headache and a few more pounds on the scale. This will not help the pain go away.
- It’s a new beginning; Celebrate the holiday and break the traditions. You can be creative and focus on the positive things you have in your life.
- Go outside and do something out of the house. Sticking it out in your house by yourself will only give you opportunity to dwell on the negative.
- Is there something you have always wanted to do as a hobby and have never had the time to do it. Take advantage of this day! You’re in charge! Be the boss! Your own boss.
As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, I see divorcing clients every day. The pain in their eyes is very sharp and very real. I will help you sort through the financial part of your divorce and will be there for questions and options for you. Your friends and family are there for your emotional support. Take them up on their offers. Lean on them, they want to help. There are no words to heal, but time spent together will start the healing process.
Call today if you would like to discuss your finances, but more importantly, reach out to your family and friends for their emotional support. My number is 480.897.1067 if you would like to find out more about what I do.